Self-efficacy is an important thing in one's life.
One one is able to believe that they can....they will be able to look forward.
Thursday, January 8, 2009
Wednesday, January 7, 2009
What happens if Man gets jaded and frustrated with life?
He takes on an armour of defenses and uses his deceitful tongue in battle.
Such is my Otosan.
We had another of those disagreements and squabbles again.
His assertion?
"Accept the way I think or just shut up."
He's always saying " Wait till to get into the real world and go through all the tough things in life, and meet really screwed-up people, than you'll know!!"
"Even dogs are better than humans since they are more obedient, never bear grudges, and are faithfully loyal.
Well, my stand against all that would be simple. Here's a logical explanation:
Theory of Mind.
While humans have this ability to reason and to have the "I-ness" quotient, or what we refer to as a soul/conscience, they are able to make their own decisions and act on their own volition.
Dogs on the other hand, or animals and the like, unfortunately, are not particularly developed in this particular faculty.
Obedience in their case, would represent Subservience instead.
sub⋅ser⋅vi⋅ent [suhb-sur-vee-uhnt]
adjective
1. compliant and obedient to authority
In other words, one can technically, and explicitly impose their will upon dogs. And yes indeed, Mr Otosan does not have a problem with doing that and neither does Mr Pet Dog have a issue with accepting it.
Secondly, grudges cannot be something that they are mentally able to process since they have the inability to reason on an individual level.
Lastly, loyalty to a human is decision-based; meaning that it is decided by the will. On the other hand, loyalty merely refers to dependency from dogs, as there is a deep attachment to the familiarity to their owner's habits and smell; as such, they are inrevocably drawn to their owners.
How is it possible, then, for humans to be compared to dogs from a moralistic perspective?
My Otosan's statment on this has left me shaking my head in disagreement, and left in beguilement.
From a psychological perspective, this statement sheds light on certain issues that he may be having in his life.
- A frustration with the things of the world, pent-up anger towards the inability to express one's own perceptions, aggravated by the oppression he is possibly facing at work.
-A lack of trust, or a firm security in the things in his life. E.g. "You constantly need to possess, strive and grab things before you, lest' you lose everything.
-The lack of clarity of his values. While it may appear crystal clear to his eyes, he has in fact only seen what he wanted to see, refusing to believe that he can be taught further, and then choosing to blindfold himself from further ideas.
Experience plays a part in determining his way of life and his principle and perceptions, however its clarity and feasibility can be contested if he remains dissatisfied and bitter, and generally unhappy towards life. In short, his joys are often shortlived and fleeting, whilst suffering and oppression is excruciatingly long and arduous.
How can he break through this and how many I help him?
I continually struggle and contend with him in this aspect, and keep remembering that I will seek Life in its very essence.
IKUZO~!!
He takes on an armour of defenses and uses his deceitful tongue in battle.
Such is my Otosan.
We had another of those disagreements and squabbles again.
His assertion?
"Accept the way I think or just shut up."
He's always saying " Wait till to get into the real world and go through all the tough things in life, and meet really screwed-up people, than you'll know!!"
"Even dogs are better than humans since they are more obedient, never bear grudges, and are faithfully loyal.
Well, my stand against all that would be simple. Here's a logical explanation:
Theory of Mind.
While humans have this ability to reason and to have the "I-ness" quotient, or what we refer to as a soul/conscience, they are able to make their own decisions and act on their own volition.
Dogs on the other hand, or animals and the like, unfortunately, are not particularly developed in this particular faculty.
Obedience in their case, would represent Subservience instead.
sub⋅ser⋅vi⋅ent [suhb-sur-vee-uhnt]
adjective
1. compliant and obedient to authority
In other words, one can technically, and explicitly impose their will upon dogs. And yes indeed, Mr Otosan does not have a problem with doing that and neither does Mr Pet Dog have a issue with accepting it.
Secondly, grudges cannot be something that they are mentally able to process since they have the inability to reason on an individual level.
Lastly, loyalty to a human is decision-based; meaning that it is decided by the will. On the other hand, loyalty merely refers to dependency from dogs, as there is a deep attachment to the familiarity to their owner's habits and smell; as such, they are inrevocably drawn to their owners.
How is it possible, then, for humans to be compared to dogs from a moralistic perspective?
My Otosan's statment on this has left me shaking my head in disagreement, and left in beguilement.
From a psychological perspective, this statement sheds light on certain issues that he may be having in his life.
- A frustration with the things of the world, pent-up anger towards the inability to express one's own perceptions, aggravated by the oppression he is possibly facing at work.
-A lack of trust, or a firm security in the things in his life. E.g. "You constantly need to possess, strive and grab things before you, lest' you lose everything.
-The lack of clarity of his values. While it may appear crystal clear to his eyes, he has in fact only seen what he wanted to see, refusing to believe that he can be taught further, and then choosing to blindfold himself from further ideas.
Experience plays a part in determining his way of life and his principle and perceptions, however its clarity and feasibility can be contested if he remains dissatisfied and bitter, and generally unhappy towards life. In short, his joys are often shortlived and fleeting, whilst suffering and oppression is excruciatingly long and arduous.
How can he break through this and how many I help him?
I continually struggle and contend with him in this aspect, and keep remembering that I will seek Life in its very essence.
IKUZO~!!
Tuesday, January 6, 2009
Wednesday, August 27, 2008
Sunday, July 27, 2008
Thursday, May 22, 2008
I guess I need to blog.
Its been quite a while, since I am always fearful of sharing myself too much.
I am afraid things are no going to be good for me.
From the look of it, I will be hitting a huge barrier ahead.
I could live a life of despair and give up, with all these fears weighing on me. But I can't be the way I used to be anymore.
I gave up more than once and failed countless times. Sure, evryone goes through the same problems.
I agree.
I shouldn't stay this way.
I believed I've hurt those who were the closest to me, due to my insensitivity and self-centredness.
What have I been doing?
I reflect briefly on my past year.
Have I lived truly? Or was I trying to live to survive, since I view the world in such a contradictory way, I am afraid I do not know it myself
Hope can be uplifting. However I was never able to grasp the meaning of all that.
I never did understand why I was given grace.
I never took it and cherished it.
And it slips past my fingers tme and time again.
I thought I was in dire traits, bad times, crises and all that.
Who was I to lament?
I am just a piece in a huge plan.
To trust requires faith.
To have faith requires trust.
I do not know what to do about this, yet I am not willing to seek the knowledge to deal with it.
I am unable to face my defeat, and neither the determination to challenge my fears.
I am living contradictory life and it eats me up.
What to do now?
Its been quite a while, since I am always fearful of sharing myself too much.
I am afraid things are no going to be good for me.
From the look of it, I will be hitting a huge barrier ahead.
I could live a life of despair and give up, with all these fears weighing on me. But I can't be the way I used to be anymore.
I gave up more than once and failed countless times. Sure, evryone goes through the same problems.
I agree.
I shouldn't stay this way.
I believed I've hurt those who were the closest to me, due to my insensitivity and self-centredness.
What have I been doing?
I reflect briefly on my past year.
Have I lived truly? Or was I trying to live to survive, since I view the world in such a contradictory way, I am afraid I do not know it myself
Hope can be uplifting. However I was never able to grasp the meaning of all that.
I never did understand why I was given grace.
I never took it and cherished it.
And it slips past my fingers tme and time again.
I thought I was in dire traits, bad times, crises and all that.
Who was I to lament?
I am just a piece in a huge plan.
To trust requires faith.
To have faith requires trust.
I do not know what to do about this, yet I am not willing to seek the knowledge to deal with it.
I am unable to face my defeat, and neither the determination to challenge my fears.
I am living contradictory life and it eats me up.
What to do now?
Tuesday, April 22, 2008
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